Okay, this is a big episode that like, I don't know if you can bookmark episodes.
If you can, you're gonna want to bookmark this episode or come back to it a few times, because this is the mindset shift. This is the perspective shift that you have to have, if you want to find love. So if you're someone right now, you've been trying to find love for like years, even just a year, and it's not working like you're taking all the action, you're doing what you think you're supposed to do. You're listening to all the advice, and it's just not working. And you're getting to that place where you're frustrated as all hell. Like why is this so hard for me? Is it ever really going to happen? Should I just give up? This is the episode for you. Because if you're in that place, you're in a mindset or a perspective, like that perspective that you have on finding love is actually keeping you stuck where you are. What we're going to do is shift into a different perspective, a different mindset, which is actually going to open up entirely different action for you to take action that will lead you to love. So get listening to this episode. Listen to it a few times. Reach out if you have questions. This is massive.
Welcome to the loved up effect Podcast. I'm Emily Bucknell, here to get you from demoralized and single to empowered, confident, and in the loving arms of your dream guy, if you're a smart, successful woman with a lot of love to give, but no matter what you do, how hard you try or how much you want to, you just don't seem to be getting any closer to love than you are in the right place. I'm here to answer your biggest and most frustrating questions when it comes to dating love and relationships in a way that no one else will get ready for practical, no BS and powerful A F insights that will lead you to laugh. Are you ready? Let's get into today's episode.
Okay, very excited to get into this episode. I feel like I say that with every episode, but like this one, too. So excited to get you into this episode. Because when you can make this shift in your perception, this shift in your mindset that I'm about to walk you through that dude, we are going to unlock a whole net new way forward, that will get you into your dream relationship, it's particularly important that you really pay attention to what I'm going to be walking you through. If you're someone in particular, that's been wanting to find love, you know, for at least the last year, and I appreciate like, a lot of you probably most of you listening, who are like the last year try like the last 510 15 years, you know, you've been wanting to find love and you've been putting your best effort in to make it happen. You know, so you've been taking on all that dating advice that you hear and that comes your way, you know, like, be on Bumble instead of Tinder try to be in your feminine energy, flirt with your eyes, whatever the hell that means. You know, make sure you wear red dresses on first date, you know doing all of that stuff that you feel like you hear all the time. But despite all of this effort, despite everything that you're doing, and how much you want it, you don't seem to be getting any closer to finding love. And you're really at that point where you're feeling soul destroyed, you're feeling exhausted, you know, totally frustrated by this whole finding love thing, because it feels like you want it so badly. You know, you're putting all the effort in, you're doing what you think you're supposed to do. You're following all the advice, but it's still not, it's still not working, you know? And all those thoughts are there where it's like, okay, well, maybe this isn't actually meant to happen for me. So if you relate to any of what I've just said, then this episode, it is so so insanely important that you pay attention to what I say in this episode, listen to it a couple of times over. Because this really is about creating a mindset shift for you that's gonna get you out of that place.
This Like honestly, it has the power to change absolutely everything for you, because it's going to change your entire approach to finding love so that you ultimately can have it. So let's start off with a really fun question.
It is actually a fun question. When I have my dream relationship, so finish this sentence for me. When I have my dream relationship, um, I'm finally going to feel how are you going to feel? I will feel happy, joyful, loved content, secur complete, like don't overthink it. When I have my dream relationship, I'm gonna feel
answers. Whatever comes up with you don't judge what comes up, just let what wants to come up, come up. And what I want to get to with this question is really the reason why you want to have a relationship, you know, and it might seem like an obvious question, but it's a really important one that you actually answer this, you know, like, what is your dream relationship? What is it going to give you that you don't have now?
What is it going to give you that you don't have now and it may like I said it might feel a bit obvious answering this question, but it's really important that you understand, understand why you want to have the relationship. You know, these are those deeper desires that you have to feel loved, joyful, content, secure, happy, connected, whatever it happened.
stubby, and these deeper desires, they drive everything that you do. So really just kind of keep in the back of your mind what yours are. Because we all have these like three to five, like really deep core desires that drive everything that we do
you know that generally what most people say is I want to feel that way, you know, I want to feel connected, I want to feel loved, I want to feel secure. Those are those core desires that, you know, that really do drive you. And what most people do is they say, Okay, well, what's going to make me feel that way? If I'm not feeling loved right now, I'm not feeling connected right now. I'm not feeling whatever it is, I want to be feeling those core desires, then what we often say then is like, well, what's going to make me feel that way? And so if those core desires that you have that aren't being met right now, where it's like, I want to feel loved, I want to feel connected, then the answer is obvious. You know, you don't have the relationship, the big relationship in your life. So it's like, well, let me find myself that relationship.
And then the question from there is the question that comes in, it's like, okay, well, if I need if I want to have this relationship, in order to meet this deep desire that I have, then what do I need to do to make it happen? What do I need to do to make it happen when I want to have a relationship? What do I do? And the answer is obvious. You know, it's like, all the stuff that you're doing, it's like, get out there and date be on online dating, like, make sure you look the way that you want to look, or the way that you think you need to look, in order to be attracted to men, it's like doing all that, like really dating focused related action. You know, and that makes sense. Because we, you know, he's not going to just like fall into that into your lap one day, you can, you know, sitting at home on a Friday, and it leads to love doing that cheese and wine and watching like the bachelor reruns or something like that, you know, he's not going to just come knocking on your door, while you're doing that are you've got to get out there and take action, you've got to do something. And this way of thinking, this mindset, if you will, is how like, 90% of the people on the planet operate. It's like, okay, I want to have something like I want to meet this core desire that comes first, I want to meet this core desire, I want to feel this way. If I feel that if I want to feel this way, then I have to have this thing, I have to have the relationship. And so therefore, I have to take action in order to have the relationship so I can feel the way that I want to feel. So you focus on that action, first and foremost, like what action do I need to take to have the thing that I want to have that relationship, so that you'll be able to meet those deeper desires that you have and feel amazing. And it makes sense. Like I said, this is a way that most of the world operates. You know, this is the way that most of us were brought up. If you want to have something, then you do do do you take action, you work hard, you keep trying until you have it. And then you feel successful, and incredible and amazing. You can be proud of yourself, and everybody will think you're awesome for achieving whatever it is that you wanted to achieve, like the hard work paid off. And you can feel good about yourself and your life.
But
does this approach actually work?
This is a do have be mindset, like I'll do the action. So I can have the relationship so I can feel loved, secure, connected all of those things.
Is the action that you're taking right now to find love. All the action that you're taking just kind of kick you know, put it think about it in your mind, what action are you taking to find love right now? Online dating, speed dating, getting your friends to set you up? You know, being on the lookout everywhere you go, making sure you look a certain way, whatever it happens to be? Is that action that you're taking right now to find love? Is it working to get you meeting the incredible men having the kind of relationship that you want? And it's a yes or no answer.
And you would not to be listening to this podcast. If it was like it's not actually working, the action that you're taking, isn't actually working to get you into your dream relationship.
So it's also really interesting to start to ask yourself this question, why isn't the action that you're taking working? Where does your mind go? It's the wrong action. You know, it's so I'm not doing the right thing, or I'm just unlucky in love, or it's the wrong timing or like, Dude, I have no idea.
I don't know why it's not working old. Totally normal responses when you're operating from this do have B mindset. And I remember thinking all the same things myself, you know, I was like Grade A student plus plus, at finding love. You know, I've always been like problem solver, perhaps a little bit impatient kind of a person, like I'm not going to wait around like I'll make it happen myself. Thank you very much. And that was totally my approach for years to finding love. Like this is a problem that I have to solve. So I was constantly googling like looking for strategies that worked when it came to dating What do I have to do to find love what a man want bla bla bla bla bla you know, Tinder was the only app back then so old saying that
you know so I made sure everything I did everything possible to have like you know the profile that you're supposed to have? You know, I didn't courses about how to
Be more of my feminine energy, like, you know, like constantly self diagnosing myself, you know, I'm too in my masculine energy, I'm too needy, I'm too there. So I've got to be more of that. You know how to text I did this right. And Chorus was like how to text like send messages and create messages like it was like, full of texting scripts, which is so random, but how to use those to appeal to a man's reptilian brain. And that's how you, you know, ended up being more attractive to them or something like that, you know, I researched it all went down every rabbit hole known to man about how to find love.
And it was all like, and if you think about it, and I'm sure you're in this place right now, where it feels utterly overwhelming and confusing, because there's literally a never ending list of action that you can take to find love, and an infinite number of variables to consider. Like, is it the dating app that you're on? Is it something about the profile? Is it something about the way you look or the way that you interact with men? Do you live in the wrong city, or your work or interests, you know, that you have, they're so female dominated that, therefore you're stopping, you know, that stops you from coming across men in your day to day life? Like, there's never ending things where you know, and if you're like me, your mind is just like, is it this? Is that that is trying to change this? What do I do about that? You know, like that problem solving, kind of, like, what action do I take to solve this problem that I'm going to have, that I have this problem where I cannot seem to find love, you know, trying to figure this out. Like, it was like, literally, like, another full time job for me. You know, it was like this mind, you know, whatever problem I just couldn't ever seem to solve, or I couldn't get any clearer answers about what I needed to do to solve it. Which is why I felt so exhausted, powerless, and soul destroyed by the whole thing, because I was trying to figure out all this action that I needed to take all the dating the action, you know, all this effort that I was putting in, it didn't seem to matter, one little bit like it never got me any closer to love, like that approach that mindset that I was operating from where it's like do in order to have wasn't working, you know, I continued to attract like the same kind of non committal party boys are guys that I just could not see any kind of future when with, you know, exes that I knew were never gonna give me what I wanted who'd actually all broken up with me, you know, they just all kept popping up.
You know, well, everybody around me seemed to find these incredible men, their lives were moving in what I saw as the right direction. Well, mine seem to stay exactly where it had been since my early 20s. So it was like a whole lot less fun, then, you know, with a whole lot more anxiety about where my, what my future was gonna look like, you know, something, I remember saying to myself a lot lot was, you know, when I have the relationship, then I can finally be happy, and everything will be okay, then I won't feel so alone. Like when I finally have the relationship. So if you're feeling the same way, then no, I feel at all for you. Like I still feel it. It's a damn hard place to be. Like, I still feel that sense of absolute frustration. Like the confusion like the what that you know, what, why is it so hard for me, like someone, will you please tell me what to do.
So if you want, if you're in that kind of place, and you want to know what you do to find love, then pay attention, pay attention to what I'm about to say. Because it isn't just about working through all the dating focused action there is it's not like, well, here's a list of things that you need that you can do to find love, being on this app, look this way, whatever it happens to be. It's not about just taking action, and then hoping and praying that something finally works for you. There is actually a way of knowing what the right action is for you to take to have your dream love. You know, the action that you need to take that will like 100% will lead you closer to love will get you into that kind of relationship that you want to have.
First, we got to break up break up with this idea that action is everything. That dating focused action is everything.
You know, and what and it's what you have to be doing in order to find love that you have to be taking dating related action, dating focused action in order to find love. Yes, you have to take action. I know straight up. There's gonna be so much resistance coming up for a lot of you where it's like, but you have to take action to find love. Yes, you do. But it doesn't necessarily need to be this dating focused action, the action that you're taking where it's like, I've gotta be doing this. It's got to be related to dating. It isn't actually getting you any closer to finding love. You know, this isn't about just trying some other strategy that you haven't yet tried. Like, you know, even the texting scripts that I mentioned before, it's not like oh my god, I haven't tried that. I better go do that. You know, it's not about then saying okay, well, I'll get someone to update my online dating profile so it looks different and better or whatever it happens to be. It's not about moving to a different city where there are more
For single men, you know, or learning how to be more in your feminine energy or something else where you're like, I haven't done that yet, it's not about just taking more action, more of the same action is just going to get more of the same results for you. So what I want you to understand is that life isn't one dimensional. Like, there's more to it than the action that you're taking. You know, this is why you and your best friend can jump on the same dating app, you know, she happens to find the love of her life there and you get like a whole nother year of solid hookup offers, like, it's not the action that matters, it's not the action that matters. It's actually you
in a good way, it's actually you and what's happening within you, that determines your reality. This is the universal law of correspondence, that you your life that you like, everything that's happening within you,
is actually reflected in your life and the reality that you're experiencing. So everything that you're experiencing right now is a reflection of what's happening within you. And by that, because I know it's like, like, a vague kind of thing to say what's happening within you. And I know people go to a lot of different places, and I'm gonna get really clear about this. You know, what I mean is like your energy, how you feel about yourself, how you feel about love life, what you believe to be true, how you see your future, how you see yourself, that's what's happening within you. It's like, down in the deeper kind of layers of the person that you are, your energy, your unconscious programming. And this is where that minds shit much, excuse me, this is where this mindset shift comes in. You know, we have to go from coming at life with this do action focus do have be mindset, like, if I take all the action that I have the relationship, then I can feel awesome.
You know, like taking that dating focused action, so that you have the incredible relationship and feel loved up awesome, all of that kind of stuff, you continue to operate from that mindset, you're going to stay stuck where you are, like 100, and million percent you keep operating from do have be making your action focus that you're taking right now thinking that it's all about the dating related action that you take,
you're gonna stay stuck, where you are taking all this action, that's not actually getting you the results that you want, what we need to do is get out of the do have B and into the B do have.
Because the key to finding love isn't what you're doing. It's who you're being, and not in a superficial way. And this is where most people go where it's like, okay, well, I have to be, you know, attractive physically, I have to interact with men in a specific way. So that I'm more attractive to them, I've got to play hard to get, I've got to do like duel, it's still the doing surface level stuff. This is about who you're being at the deepest level. So below what you're interested in, and all of that kind of stuff is who you are at the deepest level, you know, really becoming the version of you, that has her dream relationship. Now, this is the key to everything, you have to become the version of you, that has her dream relationship now. So that dream relationship can come into your life. Just let that kind of sink in. We haven't backwards 90% of the world has this backwards.
You have to become who it is that version of you that has her dream relationship. Now, from that internal perspective.
From there, you'll take entirely different action that's not necessarily focused on dating specifically, you'll take entirely different action. And you will have exactly what it is that you want.
You know, it's when you embody her so even just like connect in with this idea of you right now, in her dream relationship.
When you embody her, her energy, the way that she feels about herself, the way that she feels about life, the way that she feels about love, you know, the beliefs she has the way that she sees herself, you know, as the law of current correspondence states, your life will become a reflection of that, and it's bloody magic when it happens. Like any it happens, this is universal law.
It can't not happen you step into her now, like I said, the way she feels about herself, the beliefs that she has all that unconscious programming.
It has to happen. It has to happen you have to have that relationship. And from my experience, like this actually happens. So the magic happens, like slowly bit by bit without you actually realizing it.
This is kind of where the magic comes in. I think so often we think it's going to be this like amazing big, like, fan fairy kind of transformation. But it always happens slowly, bit by bit without you even realizing. And when you look back, you just get blown away by the transformation that you've experienced. Like, for me, I went from being, you know, at the lowest point of like, ghosted by this guy that I thought was the one to about 18 months later, like living on the farm with my now husband, we were engaged, I was pregnant, we're renovating this house together, you know, planning a whole life. Like, it's freakin insane how fast it can happen. And how you don't realize it's happening because you're shifting and changing from the deepest place. So yeah, if right now you're someone that feels like Time's running out for you to find love. You know, there aren't any decent men left for you. They've all been snapped up, you're filled with all these feelings of worry and fear that you're never going to have the life that you've always wanted. You know, you got all this resentment, you have a huge amount of resentment towards life. Like, why is it so unfair? Why is life being so mean to me? Why does everyone else get to have what I want to have? You know, and all of that kind of shame, the embarrassment about the fact that, you know, like I said, I felt like, I was still living the life where me and my friends were all living in our 20s. And, you know, they're, they are like, you know, next stage of life, and I'm still stuck where we were, like, 10 years ago.
If that's who you're being right now, then that's exactly what life is going to be reflecting back to you.
You just have a look at the effect that that core belief that you're running out of time has, you know, if you have this core belief in your unconscious programming, I'm running out of time to find love. You know, that's where all that fear and that worry comes from, what I want you to understand is the purpose of our emotions are to get us to take action. So if you've got all this fear, and this worry,
you know, then the action that you're taking isn't actually going to be getting you any closer to love. It's based on fear, not love, you know, you're going to be out there trying to force it to happen with that desperate kind of energy, repelling all the people that you actually want to come into your life.
You know, and then what you're experiencing just proves to you that you're actually running out of time out of time. You know, there's, you'll be experiencing all the software, it was like, there is a total lack of decent men to date, that's a reflection of you, not the actual truth, you're going to be attracting all those non committal player types that leave you hanging, you know,
what life is really got a sense of humor, you know, there'll be this steady stream of engagement, parties, weddings, baby showers for you to for you to attend, just to remind you what you don't actually have.
Well, that's what it seems like it's happening for you, you know, feeling left out as your friends talk about, like, you know, those next stages of life planning, weddings, babies, all of that kind of stuff. And you're like, I don't have anything to contribute to these conversations anymore. You know, people constantly asking about your love life, it's all a reflection of the stuff that's happening within you, you change what's happening within you, you change all of that, you know, it's no coincidence that you're experiencing what you are, it's literally universal law. It's the way that the world works.
And PS, this is not and I know, so many people go there. This is not about now feeling terrible, or blaming yourself for where you are. You know, this is a specific message. To all my perfectionist out there, where it's like, oh my gosh, I've just created this. This isn't about blaming yourself.
I love that quote from Maya Angelou, the do the best you can until you know better. And then when you know better do better. You have been doing the best that you knew how. You know, like I said, we're all brought up with this like action action, do try hard, put the effort in, you know, and that's freaking beautiful that you have been doing that for yourself. Like all the effort that you've been putting in, like that is special. Like that is so special.
And what you're learning right here is like yeah, okay, that's not working. But bring that kind of energy bring that love for yourself. Bring all that effort that doing that you have been doing for yourself and channel in this new way. You will freakin get results.
You know, this is what this episode is all about. Really just helping you get this new perspective, this new mindset
helping you know better so you can do better that it's not about that dating focus focused action. You know, focus on what really matters which is you
you matter more than anything else.
Like when was the last time you focused on you? Ah,
I feel it. Because you are the center of your universe, your life you, your internal state, how you feel, how you feel about yourself, how you feel about your life, you know all of that from here on out, it has to be your focus, because it determines everything else. Not to mention the fact that you just deserve that from you. You deserve to be like number one priority, you deserve not to be suffering anymore in the way that you're suffering.
And this is exactly why inside the loved up effect Podcast, which is my proven framework to find love, there are three steps to it, steps one and step two, are focused totally on who you're being, creating these internal shifts that you have to have. Step number one, release yourself is focusing all about energy and emotion, all the stuff that you've been holding on to pain, resentment, shame, you know, really clearing that out. So you're no longer in this place of suffering, you know, connecting you back in with love giving you that inner healing that you need, you know, getting really clear about what is happening there. And yeah, some of it. You know, I've just gone through a couple of weeks of actually doing this again, myself, like, like, I always say, this is a continual process, every time you want to step up to the next level of whatever it is that you want to experience in your life. It always involves this process of letting go, getting clear about what's happening within you and releasing it. And sometimes it's not a easy process.
But that is why I created this to give you that kind of support. So you can do it so you know what you need to do. So step one, like I said, is focused all about energy and clearing out that emotional stuff. So that you are at that place where you feel loved, you feel content, you feel secure, you feel happy, you feel lit up, you feel sparkly, as you know what like that is the you that has her dream relationship, you become her
your hope that relationship comes into your life, then step number two, love yourself is about looking beneath. So we have to clear out a lot of that energy. So we can get into those deeper layers of your unconscious programming. And start looking at those beliefs that you have the way that you see yourself what you believe about the world about love about your future, and start changing that. Start changing that. So you have beliefs that are empowering beliefs that support you beliefs that align with you having that dream relationship.
You know, working with the universal laws, how life works, so that that love can come into your life. And it's only from that place. So step one and step two, all about you becoming the version of you that has her dream relationship. And then comes step three, which is be yourself, where we get into the action. We're from that place where you're like, dude, I'm feeling freakin epic. You know, I have these beliefs that support me, my energy is epic, I'm just loving freakin life, I'm out of that place of suffering. I'm out of frustration, I'm out of worry, I'm out of anxiety, you know, you still have those emotions come up, but they don't pull you down, like pull you down for weeks or months or whatever it happens to be. And you have that kind of support behind you have the tools and the practices to support you every time anything else comes up. Because like I said, this is a constant process where it's like, oh, that triggered me in a fun way, what's actually happening there.
What wound is just open that I need to look at, that I can bring healing to. Like it is so empowering, when you can focus on yourself in that way, when you can say there's this stuff here that I don't want to carry around anymore. Here's how you release it, here are the tools and the practices to do that.
But it's when you're at that place when you're being you know, when you are being the version of you that has that dream relationship, you're feeling those core desires, those core desires that you have for love for connection, like you're feeling that now.
From there, you will take entirely different action.
And like I've talked about before, I used to do these dating strategy sessions with everybody that had gone through the loved up effect Podcast, really, to help them kind of really get specific about the action that they need to take because it's unique to us all. You know, it comes from your intuition. It comes from you. The next step for you to take to your for your dream love. It comes from you. It doesn't come from Google. It doesn't come from, you know, other dating coaches that say okay, well you have to be on this app, and you have to be speed dating. And this is what you need to reply to messages and like it doesn't come from those sources. Your next step to find your dream love comes from you nothing external to you. And it's really interesting because in all of those sessions, I don't think we generally always ever talked about dating related acts.
it, it's like, you know what, I need to change my living situation, I need to bring more fun and enjoyment into my life.
You know, yeah, I'm finding online dating amazing. So keep doing that, you know, I want to get out there and, you know, build my confidence, well then do that, but it comes from you.
Be do have,
you got to get this action comes last, the action that you need to take to find love comes last you come first, you. And when you're that version of you, that has her dream relationship, you know, that energy, you know, you've got those beliefs, you've got that identity, you know, you are the you that has her dream relationship. Like you will take, like I said, entirely different action that will get you the results that you want.
So how do you start this process of becoming the you that has her dream love? Like, what does this even mean? I know that some of you are gonna be like, that sounds crazy at all. But
what does this mean that you do? The first thing is getting clear on what is actually happening within you. Like what you're holding on to energetically how you feel your emotional state, your triggers, the beliefs that you hold about yourself, love life, your future, the way that you see yourself, and therefore what is possible for you. And most people honestly have no friggin clue. Because we aren't taught this at school, like, you know, understanding yourself in this way isn't something that's, like, valued particularly highly or understood in a deep kind of way. You know, most people think that understanding yourself is like, Okay, this is what I'm interested in, this is what I'm good at, you know, I'm a creative person. And I like animals. And I'm also super organized, that's great and all but that's not you, that's not deep, you that's not soul. You know, that's how it might manifest. But there's deeper you.
You know, and this isn't necessarily, I think it's a skill that's becoming valued more, but this isn't necessarily a skill that's valued, generally by society, yet, it is the key to leading a completely fulfilling life, understanding you at your deepest layers. So most people honestly have no clue, or they don't want to know.
Like, you don't want to get into the pain, the resentment, the jealousy, whatever it is that you're holding on to the way that you feel about yourself. Because it can be painful as all hell,
you know, and I end it is I get that, you know, sometimes, and this is the thing, often it is like the thought of the pain is bigger than the actual pain itself. And when you have the right tools and the right support to actually release pain, to release a lot of this resentment, the jealousy, the way that you feel about yourself. Now you realize that it's not the big scary thing that it feels like it is right now.
You know, so I get that it can be scary to look at these things. But I know it also doesn't go away just because you're ignoring it. All of that stuff, like you're holding on to it energetically physically in your body. And until you release it, it actually just sits there and festers. Like it will continually pull you back down. You know, I know there's so many people reach have reached out to me in the last couple of weeks. Like really resonating what I've been saying, you know, in previous episodes, particularly one about, you know, biological clock ticking, like the desperation, the worry, the fear, the anxiety, you know, all of that just continues to be there until you do the work to release it. And as long as it's there, it's just gonna pull you back down. It's like, okay, I'm medical guy. And then the worry and the fear and the anxiety take over. And sabotage is a whole freakin thing. You have to do the work to heal and release all of that. Otherwise, it will continue to pull you back down.
So you may be someone that's like, I don't want to look at this. This is what I'm here to help you do. Or you might be someone that's like, I don't even know how to figure this out.
How do I even get clear on what's happening within me?
You know, and you have to start to learn how to do this, like all of you listening to this podcast right now are ready to learn how to do this, how to start looking within
how like figuring out, okay, I've got this stuff here that's actually keeping me stuck in my love life.
You know, this is why I'm taking this action, it's not getting the results that I want. You know, until you do this, it's just like you're gonna continue to take the same action, feeling frustrated, you know, losing hope, day by day that it's ever going to happen for you.
So if you relate to any of those where it's like, oh my gosh, I don't know what to do. I don't know how to
Do it what like, I get this I get, I'm getting the mindset shift, it's all about you first be do have. If you're getting that,
then yeah, and you want to learn more, yeah, because I have a brand new workshop that I'm going to be running live on zoom this month. So we'll be sitting down together to help you get absolute clarity on what is happening within you, like I will show you how to do this. Like who you're being right now, that's actually stopping you from having that love come into your life. So if you're ready to stop wasting your time and your energy, like stop taking that action that just isn't getting you any closer to love. And it's never gonna get you any closer to love PS. You know, if what I've said in this episode makes sense to you. And you want to see for yourself what this mind shift, sale over this mindset shift can do for you, then make sure you join this workshop, it's called Ready for Love. You know, I'm going to walk you through a really detailed workbook that's going to enable you like us specifically to pinpoint you the emotions that you have the energy that you have the stories, the beliefs, the perspectives that are actually holding you back from love, you know, that are actually serving you that are keeping you stuck where you are. So that becomes really clear to you like who you're being right now. And therefore what you need to clear what you need to release what you need to shift and change within, in order to move forward to becoming that you that has her dream love. So the dream love can come into your life, you know, so you have that, like when you're at that place. It's like, well, this is my next step. You know that action that comes from within you, you have to get to that place.
So for everybody that's already part of any of my programs, you are all getting free access to this workshop. So if that's you, then all the details will be in your inbox, send me a message, email, or DM if not, otherwise, if you're new to me, you'll find the link to join in the show notes. So, I'm gonna say this again, we got to get this guys, if you want to have love, if you want to find love, if you want to have that relationship in your life, then you have to make this shift you have to go from this action focused, do have b
to putting yourself first be do then have this is what I'm here to show you how to do. So send me a DM send me an email if you have any questions about this at all. Otherwise, make sure you join Ready for Love because I'm gonna give you how you start doing this. Like the clarity that you're gonna get is gonna be like, holy moly, I get it now. I get why the action I'm taking isn't working. I get why I'm not having what I want come into my life. Life changing. So yeah, any questions? Let me know. Make sure you're in the workshop. And I'll chat to you soon.
