Okay, so how to be more attractive to men? What a men find attractive in women? How many times have you Googled those questions? Because these and many variations of these questions were unsteady rotation for me back in the day, you know, when I was trying my hardest to attract the quality men that I wanted into my life. So inside this episode, I'm going to give you the absolute truth when it comes to what you need to do to be more attractive to men, which I can almost guarantee does not include anything that you're currently doing to be more attractive to men. And it isn't anything that you'll find in those Google search results. Why? Because most of what you think makes you more attractive to men generally, actually makes you less attractive to the quality men that you want to attract into your life. And unfortunately, it also pulls you to pieces in the process. So if you're someone that's wondering what's wrong with you what you need to fix and change about yourself in order to be more attractive to the men that you want in your life, you know, if you're feeling insignificant, unseen, invisible, like you're always fighting for attention, and only getting scraps in return, then you need to hear what I'm going to say to you in this episode. It cuts really close to my heart still, even 10 years later. Let's get into it now.
Welcome to the loved up effect Podcast. I'm Emily Bucknell, here to get you from demoralized and single to empowered, confident, and in the loving arms of your dream guy, if you're a smart, successful woman with a lot of love to give, but no matter what you do, how hard you try or how much you want to, you just don't seem to be getting any closer to love than you are in the right place. I'm here to answer your biggest and most frustrating questions when it comes to dating love and relationships in a way that no one else will get ready for practical, no BS and powerful A F insights that will lead you to love. Are you ready? Let's get into today's episode.
If you want to have your dream relationship, but you're also finding it near impossible just to get a decent date, then there's a problem that we need to solve ASAP. Despite what mainstream dating advice will tell you, the solution isn't about trying to find him on a specific app, or at the newest upmarket grocery store. Nor is it about turning yourself into who you think you have to be to be more attractive to men. In fact, doing that will only keep you stuck where you are attracting all the non committal emotionally unavailable guys with 45,000 red flags, because it doesn't take into account the only thing that really matters when it comes to who you attract into your life, your energy inside attraction 101 My no BS Crash Course and how to attract the quality guys that you actually want to date, you will learn the basics of understanding clearing and regulating your energy so that you know what you need to do to attract the incredible men and your dream relationship comes into your life, the links in the show notes to join now.
Okay, so hopefully, you've already listened to episodes 910 and 11, which was a series of episodes that I did that was totally focused on solving that problem, you know, where you're just attracting all the less than awesome guys, you know, which has to be the problem that you focus on solving first if you want to have your dream relationship because it is literally the first step. Like if you want to have your dream love, you got to be attracting the quality men, you know, that want to have that dream love as well, you know, and with you, you have to be attracting them in order to have that relationship. So if you haven't listened to those episodes yet, make sure that you do that now because it's gonna give you this entirely new understanding of attraction that honestly is like essential for you to change up who it is that you're attracting. So in that series, I also talked a bit about how when you're not attracting the quality of men, you know, and especially, you know, when you're putting your heart and soul in trying to find them or be more attractive, you know, and then you look around and it's like all your friends seem to so easily attract these incredible men and end up in these incredible relationships. It is so insanely for common for women like and me included, I did this as well to make this like logical seeming assumption that because you're not attracting the quality men, you know, then there's something unattractive about you, you know, like I remember even saying this to myself, like I'm the common dumb common denominator in all of this there must be something wrong with me there must be something that I need to fix or change about myself. So I really wanted to talk about this more both because I know how insanely common this is, you know, like the amount of women that I have coming to me saying like I just don't get it. What am I doing so wrong? What is so wrong about me I'm doing all these things to try and change myself and nothing seems to be happening. So I'm want to talk about this because that common and because you know, also making that assumption myself I know
Like, from my own experience, how destructive and painful it is feeling this way about yourself, you know, and honestly, I see my role here. And what I just am so passionate about doing is helping you relieve this kind of suffering. And this is what I want to help you do in this episode episode, I want to dive a bit in a bit deeper in to this whole idea that there's something wrong with you. So you can start freeing yourself from feeling that way because it feels awful. And ultimately, like it stops you from actually attracting the men that you want into your life. So it just pulls you further and further down what I call the spiral of unhappily ever after, you know, but when you can start to free yourself from thinking this way about yourself, you know, from actually feeling horrible, like you know, and when you're honest about it, and it took me ages to get on about honest about this to about how I really felt about myself, when you can change all of that you change who it is you attract into your life.
So this is how this all played out for me. So I went to an all girls school, like high school and I missed like in your seventh or eighth or whatever it was, I missed out on like the first boy girl party that all my friends went to so I showed up to school on Monday. And everybody's like, you know, the entire conversation had totally changed where it's like, all about this boy like this one or this and oh, like, and I was just like, they're like, Okay,
right? Here I am back where we were last week. And everybody all of a sudden is like miles ahead of me in this whole like relationship up thing. You know, and it really was from that point like that carried forward in so many ways for me, like through my 20s to my 30s where I always felt like I was falling behind. I was falling behind everybody else. Like I wanted to have that relationship, but it never seemed to kind of click into place for me, you know, so I did things like just kind of fell into any relationship that came my way. You know, I had a lot of that, like, I need someone else to choose me in order for me to feel okay about myself. I didn't realize I had that at the time, though. So you may be someone and you're like, No, no, I know, like, I'm not supposed to feel that way. Like, I think there's a lot of that out there where it's like, I know, I'm supposed to feel okay about myself. You know, if I don't have the relationship unconsciously I know that logically, I know that. But deeper down, there's a hell of a lot of other stuff happening that contradicts that, you know, and I struggled with, like, the big thing that I struggle with tours that even these relationships that I kind of fell into, like the guys were nice and all but they were never actually like what I imagined or who I imagined myself with, they always seemed like and I don't want to sound horribly harsh or anything like that, like so much love for them, you know that everybody comes into your life for a reason. But I always kind of felt like I was at the B grade guys. So I felt really be great about myself, like who was choosing me who was in my life, the relationships I had, you know, it, it changed how I felt about myself, you know, and this is this is what I mean, this is so insanely common, like, you know, you even think back to like school and being picked for like sporting teams. And if you're like the last one, you know, it affects how you feel about yourself, if you lost one of your group of friends to be picked, you know, in inverted commas picked by someone else to be in a relationship with and create a life with like it it. So it's so common, and it's so easy to do with that actually affects how you feel about yourself. So like I said, this kind of continued through my teenage years and into my 20s. You know, I had this massively long
off relationship with a guy that was totally not who I ultimately saw myself with.
But it was that old situation that when we were off, like I would just had these moments where I was like, well, there's nobody else out there like there are no there's no other options for me, which is what I saw at the time. Now looking back, I realized that there were actually a ton of really incredible guys that were interested in me but I was always discounting is too boring, no spark, you know, but that's a whole other conversation that we'll have soon about your comfort zone and how you self sabotage yourself without even realizing.
So I just everywhere in my kind of like external reality, it seemed to just really confirm to me that I wasn't worthy of the incredible relationship, you know, and it was better just to have these big array kind of relationships because like the incredible one wasn't anywhere inside, you know, so I got to this point when I was like 31 Freshly dumped by another boyfriend who I'd been with for almost three years we lived together the whole deal. And again, like the second we were he was interested in me I was like this guy is never gonna give me the kind of relationship that I want. Really fun to be around lovely guy, you know, but just not looking for what I wanted. So
it wasn't a surprise at all ended. But still, you know, I had a lot of those similar kinds of beliefs like oh my gosh, over 30 clock's ticking. Nobody's going to be left to date, all of that kind of stuff. So when I got dumped, I was like, Dude, this is like make or break time like
I got to frickin figure this out. I gotta land the epic guy, I've got to finally have the relationship. Because like I said, it felt like time was ticking away. I was like, this is like, if I don't do something about this now, you know, where am I going to be in 510 20 years time, not where I want to be. So anyway, freshly dumped, I ended up on my usual
and I do not recommend this, my usual post breakup diet, which is pretty much eating very little, because, you know, the emotions and all this stuff happening, and I just didn't feel like eating. You know, it was kind of common for me to do that. You know, and it's common for a lot of people to do that, when you're in that really low emotional place. There's a lot of stuff happening a lot that you're working through, like just looking after yourself in the most basic of ways, like eating food, you know, can fall to the wayside. So, you know, it wasn't long till I ended up like this skinniest I have ever been like not skin and bones skinny, but I lost weight. You know, it's not, again, it's not a diet that I recommend it all. But I just want to give I'm just trying to give you a picture of what was happening at this time. So then as you also do post breakup, and when you're on a mission to frickin find him. You know, I decided that the best thing for myself was like, Okay, I'm not going to wait around being brokenhearted here for the next two years. Like I'm gonna friggin get up. I'm gonna find myself someone else. I'm gonna make this happen. So I got to work. Figuring out Tinder never done online dating before. I don't think you know, this is back in 2000, like, I think was around 2015. You know, where Tinder was like new ish, I think.
But I was like, Yeah, I got to figure this whole thing out. I've got to figure out what I need to do to be attractive. Which of course I Googled, you know, because so many of my friends are oriented in relationships. I was like, I don't know, where do you go for advice, Google, you know, Googling all this stuff? Like how to be more attractive to men? What do men want? What do men find attractive? What do I need to like? How do I you know, stand out on Tinder? What do I need to put on my dating profile? When I go on dates? What do I need to say? What do I need to say in messaging conversations, all of that kind of stuff. So it's been um, you know, and I'm that kind of person where it's like, there's a problem. I'm gonna figure frickin figure out how to solve it. So that's exactly what I did. And I put everything that I was learning into practice. You know, my friends got involved to taking like photos of me and like, you need to have photos of you with your like good looking friends. So then people you know the guys that see you know, that you have good friends like all of this kind of stuff. This is what I need to write on my on my dating profile, you know, all the things you know, I read to that men love like figure hugging, you got to show off your assets, obviously, and they love red dresses, like wear red dresses on first dates. And it's funny I like before I was getting ready to do this episode. Putting it all together. I was like, let's see what the advice is on Google standard still stuff like that, like wear red dresses. I frickin hate the color red. It's really not my thing. But I bought this whole new wardrobe of red dresses, many that I now on rotation at Christmas.
Um, if so, I bought all these new clothes. I started wearing my hair down all the time, because I've read that, you know, men prefer that kind of look. It was like, You know what I made sure the dresses that I got were kind of like, Gerlich story kind of like they showed off some of your assets but not in a really overt kind of way. You know, you've got to be that girl next door with a bit of something extra in a really natural makeup. I'm not a big makeup person in general. So that wasn't too hard. But it was like had the perfume that like they remember you buy all of this kind of stuff. Anyway, dated a couple of people. Yeah, whatever, doing the whole thing. And then I matched with this guy that I was like blown away by Like, I literally got to the point where I was like this like finally and I had so many people in my life saying to me like this is finally your it's him. Emily, it's finally your time.
You know, he was such a step up from my previous boyfriends like he wanted what I did. Amazing. He was interested in me he was interesting. He had a cool job. He had a like a legitimate adult car as well. It wasn't like some banged up purple thing.
Anyway, we dated for three months. And then we went on this like insanely like, like bachelor like holiday horse riding through the Canadian rockin Rocky Mountains, and then to Hawaii. And then we came home. And it was really interesting. So we've been kind of together for three months, I was feeling really good, really excited about life, all of that kind of thing. And it was actually when we were away and I didn't like I obviously this got stored someone somewhere in my mind. But at the time, it didn't ring the alarm bells that didn't have rings to me now, which is like, I don't know, I don't know if it's a terrible thing. But now I look back and I'm like, oh my god, this is why that happened. And this is why I'm telling you the story. Anyway, so we're away and we were in Hawaii. And I think I've actually like sitting by the pool. So as in my swimmers and stuff like that. And he actually says to me,
I struggle to even say these words because it's a frickin awful thing to say to someone. You
used to look like a Pilates teacher. And now you don't like word for word stuck in my brain at the time. I think I was like, oh, yeah, like because I've never been someone that like really focuses like heavily on you know what I actually look like up you know what I mean? I'm not like really hung up on that kind of thing. And I was like, Well, I don't, I think I still look cool. So like, whatever you can say what you want. I didn't really take it as the sort of criticism, which I actually think it was. Because then when we got home, like, it was like a week or two till he just totally ghosted me. So yeah, 100% I had put weight back on because I was eating again. You know, I was still like, like I said, I was still like, probably like 15 kilos lighter than I am now. I wasn't that I wasn't even remotely fat. Like, like I said, I don't think I've really picked up on this. Because at the time, I was like, No, this is what I usually look like, like, I'm back to what I usually look like, and I'm never kept consider myself fat.
But what I really want you to understand, in me telling you this story is that is that this is who I attracted, being who I thought men wanted, you know, he was attracted to this version of me that I actually wasn't, you know, this version of me that I couldn't keep up this version of me that was like, post breakup, sad in pain, not eating, scared about my future, and really looking for someone to distract me from all of that, and I attract this guy, that when I started to, like, morph into who I actually was, he's like, Dude, you're not who I thought you were, and I'm not really interested in that. So I hit like, understandably, hit a really low point after that, because I was like, Dude, I thought this guy was one, you know, and then ended up pulling myself out of it by learning what I now teach women, you know, what is now, you know, my, the framework that I have the loved up effect, you know, in, this is what I'm sharing with you now, here, too, you know, I did a absolute ton of, you know, what people call like, the inner work, learning about my energy, my unconscious mind, you know, and how to create change there to create my reality, you know, to change what it wasn't always in track, what, uh, what it was that I was attracting into my life. You know, and a lot of this, and a lot of the work that I do with women, like involves changing the relationship that you have with yourself. Like, it's what is cold, like, so much of what I do, like, the undercurrent of it is really self love, but not self loving that like, you know, cheesy, go get a massage, like have a bubble bath kind of a way. This is like deep, deep, deep self love, like, deep self love, you know, getting it's all about getting out of that conversation. And this is what I do a lot of work around getting out of that conversation that I've been so stuck in, like thinking that there was something wrong with me, because unlike everybody else, you know, I hadn't attracted the incredible guys. You know that therefore, even though I was like someone, I looked at myself, and I'd say, You know what, you're you're an attractive person, you You're good looking, you know, you're smart, you're successful. Like I, I saw myself as attractive, but because I wasn't attracting these men into my life. I was, I was like, Well, what is it that I'm not seeing? Like, is there some big, shiny something that's like repelling people from me? You know, I had that, like, what do I need to fix? I was constantly wondering, what do I need to be fixed? What do I need to fix? What do I need to change? What about myself in order to be worthy of love, to be chosen by someone to be seen to be understood and appreciated? You know, for the incredible person that I was, and still am today? You know, and I really, like even just talking about this, like I said, it's still like, it's still there. Like, I still hurt. You know, obviously, I've done the work, but I still heard for that me, like, for that may like whatever it was, like 10 years ago, because she felt or probably, whatever, a long time ago, because she felt so alone, she felt so insignificant, and she felt like she didn't matter, because nobody else was sort of choosing her. You know, when I think back to her, I want to take her on, I want to hug her and I want her look her straight in the eyes and tell her the truth. You know, and now I mean, the incredible position that I am where I get to tell you the truth to that there is nothing wrong with you. You know, if you're so many like what's wrong with me? Why is it not happening for me? It's not because there's something wrong with you. You don't need fixing. You are worthy of love exactly as you are as a person you are in this moment right now. And when you realize this when you're able to be truly yourself, you know, with confidence and conviction knowing that like yeah, you might have healing to do you might have you know, stuff that you need to work on. You might not be perfect like but who is you know, when you can stand there with confidence and conviction saying to the world here I am is me you know, I'm here for love. I'm here for the life that I want than the men out there who are dying to love you for who you truly are. Like they'll finally be able to see the real you and they will come into your life. But it doesn't happen in
till you see the real you till you really appreciate who it is that you are. When you do that. Finally you'll open up to have these people come into your life. And this is what happened for me when I fully embrace that truth. Like Guess who appeared in my life like the man that I'm now married to the man that just the other day literally said to me, like, you know how hot incredible like I like word for word. I think the world of you, you know, he doesn't bat an eye
when I look like as the you know what, he doesn't care that I'm like 15 kilos heavier than when I met him, you know, you know, there was this day a couple of months ago and actually shared this on social media. I think it went viral actually.
But you know, like I had this day I just got up love being in my garden really love gardening and I was like so excited wanted to do something in the garden I forget exactly what it was. So I put on these leggings that I know are see through
you know, wearing my granny undies, obviously to like they're covered in pain, pretty sure I had I had not brushed my teeth wash my face done my hair in any way shape, or form. And it was summer so I put on like, you know, my son safe had like it not great look, we've like I'm pretty sure he's wearing socks with like, shoes that you don't usually wear socks with. Like it was even I remember even me like looking at down and being like, wow, white the outfit. But he doesn't even bat an eyelid like, you know, and it's not that he doesn't care or anything like that, or he's not looking at me. But he looks past all of that, you know, so he came out and then we just had this normal conversation didn't even bat an eyelid like he did literally does not care about that stuff. Because he loves me. You know, and I'm definitely not saying like, go on dates with that look.
But you get what I mean, just be you. Because it's like and the other thing I want you to understand it is so insanely freeing, you know, in the relationship that I have now I don't have to be anybody but me, I don't have to look like I'm a frickin Pilates teacher. And this is what I want you to experience to which I know is ultimately what you want. You know, what we all want is to be loved for exactly who you are. That is what we all want. That is what we all deserve. But you have to be exactly who you are in order to have that.
You know, so I want to also get a bit deeper into the energy of this as well. So when you're actually trying to be more attractive, or you're trying to be who you think you who you think men want. How does this mean that you feel about yourself? Like if you're saying to yourself, what's wrong with me? What do I need to fix about myself? Clearly, I am unattractive? You How do you feel about yourself?
Like you're not good enough? Like you're not pretty enough? You're not whatever it is that you think you have to be enough.
And that feels pretty damn awful, doesn't it? Like how can you feel good about yourself. And this is your internal dialogue that no one is ever going to like you for who you are right now. Like imagine having someone who you're with 24 hours a day, seven days a week, who keeps pointing out all the ways you have to change yourself in order to be liked or chosen or loved by someone. You tell them to you know what off, because that kind of criticism is going to bring anybody down. It is going to bring anybody down. If you hear that enough, it's going to make you feel sad, hopeless, powerless, and unworthy. You're going to start to believe all of that, which I hope you can see is like a really low energy or vibration to be in. You know, and as we talked about in that series that I did about attraction, you know, particularly in episode number 10. So if you haven't listened to that, go back and listen to that, like attracts like, it's universal law. Like there's no getting around this. Just like there's no getting around the effect that gravity has on our lives. There's no getting around the effect, the law of attraction and the law of vibration have on our lives like attracts like. So if you're feeling unworthy, you're feeling like you're not good enough that you're not enough as you are, you've got to change something about yourself, there's something wrong with you, then you are going to attract more of that. Which is exactly why right now you're attracting the guys, well, you might not be attracting anybody at all, or you're attracting the guys that seem all interested in you. They get to know you and then they disappear, which is what I experienced. You know a lot of this I experienced to where you're fighting for attention where it's like, I've got to do all the legwork. I've got to like chase them up. I've got to plan the dates, I've got to do all the things and you never really get much in return. You know the guys that don't really message you or don't communicate all of that kind of stuff. The ones that don't want commitment, the situation ships where you're just kind of like in this limbo land being like, Are you like going to make this visual? You're the guys that disappear on you, the ones that don't really seem to care or to think about you they're interested in you. It's why you're attracting that because you're
humming with that energy of you're not good enough. So you so you attract the guys that reflect that. You know, and this is a thing I used to do, too, I used to slap a smile on my face. Hey, yeah, I feel great. You know, I'm happy, which I think a lot of people do when you think about the law of attraction and all that kind of manifestation. It's like positive energy, positive energy, you cannot fool the universe, you cannot fool the universe. And it's not just about slapping a smile on your face, you have to go deeper and create change at this really deep level, like change the whole relationship that you have with yourself. And if you don't know how to do this, like, if you don't have the tools to do this, then nothing's going to change for you. So you're always, always, always going to attract what you're an energetic match to, like always. And again, you cannot fool the universe, if you've got this conversation happening, that internal dialogue where you're saying, What's wrong with me, what do I need to fix, I'm not this enough, I'm not that enough. I've got to lose the weight, I've got to be less needy, I've got to do the healing, I've got to recover from whatever it happens to be like, then that's pulling your energy down.
And the last thing that I want to make sure that you understand on this is that you cannot stuff up what is meant for you, you know, your dream relationship isn't going to pass you by, because you wore the wrong thing. You weren't in your feminine energy enough, you know, you were he's not going to pass you by because you replied to his message straight away. And you think that you have to play hard to get
you know.
Like bringing back so many memories, you know, the right guy is gonna love you for all of that. He's gonna be like, Oh my gosh, I was excited to talk to our center a message and she replied, straight away. And then we had this epic conversation. You know, the right guy isn't gonna be like, Oh, my God, look how needy she is. That is the wrong guy for you. What I want you to understand that is no one is perfect. No one is perfect. You can't do this whole thing perfectly. There is no perfect. Perfect is literally just being you with all your imperfections that we all have.
No relationship happens perfectly. You know, some of the best relationship stories are the ones that don't go to plan. You look at like all the rom com movies and stuff like that, where it's like, somebody trips over and the books go flying. And then they meet eyes. And it's like, oh my gosh, you know, I have parents, I think I'm like, the second date my dad took my mom to was like, I think they were going skiing or something. He was like six to pick her up. Like these stuff happens. And it becomes those incredible stories where you're like, yes, and even just talking about this reminds me of Niomi who went through my program quite a few years ago now. You know, was trying always trying to be who she thought men want wanted, just getting crappy, crappy results, we did a lot of work together, you know, shifting that relationship that she had with herself.
You know, and she had a lot of this stuff come up, because somebody had told her like previously, no, your life is annoying, you know, and we take that stuff on all that kind of criticism that we get, like just being human and the stuff that people say, you know, she took that on. So every time she was on dates and stuff like that, she'd be like, well, I better life a different way I don't want to do I don't want to laugh, like, you know, the way that I usually do, because, you know, everybody thinks it's annoying, you know, but after doing all the work that we did, she dropped all of that she was able to stand there with confidence in who it was who it is that she is, you know, and now she's with the in this incredible relationship, they have a baby started a family the whole thing. And when she met this guy, you know what the first thing he told her he loved about her. Her freakin laugh. And this is what I want you to understand is that all the things that you're freaking out about right now where it's like, I gotta change this, I've got to be more that I've got to be more this, whatever it happens to be. It's probably all the stuff that your dream guy will love about you.
So I hope this kind of makes sense. I hope this is sinking in. So I really want you to take some time now and consider all the ways that you're trying to be more attractive to men. All the ways that you think you're not enough and how that makes you feel. Because it's how you feel that energy that honestly it will determine who comes into your life. And if you resonate with what I said today, like if you don't feel worthy of love of that dream relationship like you are as you are, if you're like okay, no, I've got to change these things about myself. You know, I have to change these things in order to be loved. Then know that that's a sign that there is healing there. You know, if anything, like if what I've said today, like really hits a nerve with you, then know that there's healing there that needs to be done in order to change that energy. You know, it's about going into self love in the deepest sense, because that needs to be restored in order to change your energy so you can attract different people into your life. You know, the men that will love you for who
It is that you are. And until you do that, you're gonna be stuck in that place where all the action that you take is about fixing you,
you know, when you don't actually need fixing,
you know, and when you're taking this action to fix you, all you do is attract the crappy guys. But when you focus on inner healing, you'll actually change the energy that you're putting out there, you'll have that confidence, you'll have that conviction to be you. And that's when you finally will start to be able to attract the incredible men who are out there, and they want to come into your life. You know, this is what we do inside step one of the loved up effect, which is my proven framework that gets women into the relationships of their dreams. You know, and like I've been talking about in the attraction series that we did you know, who it is that you attract is that first step, you got to figure this out, in order to have your dream relationship. So in step, one of the loved up effect, it's called release yourself, there's a whole module dedicated to inner healing, like dedicated to changing this relationship that you have with yourself. So if you want to learn more about that, send me an email, send me a DM. And also make sure you join attraction one on one, I'll put the link in the show notes as well, because that's gonna start to give you like, we've got to get into that energy, you've got to understand what's actually happening within you. So you can create the change there, because it affects everything that's happening in your life. It's literally how you create that reality.
So this episode, and honestly talking about all of this is something that I feel so strongly about, you know, because like I said, I know there's so many of you out there, I hear this all the time from women, like I'm just what do I need to do? How do I need to change myself, you know, and if that's what you're saying, then I know there's that suffering happening deep down, because you don't feel worthy of love as the women that you are. So I hope that what I've said today has been helpful for you to hear. Because more than anything else, I want you to know that you deserve love from you. Like put the frickin relationship to the side. Number one is that you deserve love from you. You deserve to be loved, you deserve to be accepted by you for who you are. And it's when you come to that place of loving and accepting who you are that you're able to attract the incredible men that reflect that, that reflect the relationship that you have with you. You know, you really do teach others how to treat you. So if this episode has been helpful for you, like reach out, send me an email, send me a message on social media, whatever it happens to be, like, if you want to do this work with me, like stick your hand up, like if this resonated with you, I really, like so encourage you to stick your hand up and let me know. Because I know even if I just said like even saying this, I know a lot of you will be like okay, self love, I can do that. Like I thought that too about self love, I thought Yeah, I can create a whole new relationship with myself, I didn't realize like I didn't have the tools, I didn't have the practices, you know, and I've spent the last 910 years trying out so much in my own life and I know what works, like I know how to change help you change that relationship with you. You know, and it is the most like
more than getting you guys into like the relationship of your dreams when you have that relationship with you and I'm getting chills just talking about this. It's like really, that's such a passion of mine. But when you have this relationship with you where you just hold in and totally love and accept you like that is when you get to that place and everything else flows from there. So you know while I talk about like this proven path to love so much of it is like finding that love within you so that you can have that relationship so if there's honestly if this has hit a chord with you reach out to me let's chat because I want to get you out of this place like you got to get out of this place to have the relationship like to have feel like whole and complete again before you have that relationship to have that acceptance you know when I know sometimes it is enough or it's not often not enough but I think just hearing this from me I really want you to have those words sink in you are enough like you whoever it is, whatever you are write down with all the things that you think your flaws like there's somebody out there who's dying to love you but you have to love you first.
So like I said reach out. Please leave me a review if you found this episode helpful. But I cannot wait to chat with you more about this and I hope this episode was helpful for you
