Okay, so it's time for the final episode in this three part series all about solving that problem, where it like no matter how hard you're looking, where you're looking how hard you try to be attractive and who you think men want, you're just swiping through the same kind of men that give you the Eric attracting all the emotionally unavailable, guys with 1 million red flags, you know, month after month, year after year. So it feels like you'll never have your dream relationship because you're struggling to get like even a half decent date. And it's true, you will never have your dream relationship until you figure out how to attract the quality men you want a relationship with and who want one with you. Like I said in the previous episode, no problem can be solved by the same level of consciousness that created it, thank you Arnstein. A new understanding of an attraction unlocks new action, new action gets you new results gets you attracting the quality men. So now that you've got that new understanding of attraction from Episode 10, if you haven't get listening to that now, then inside this episode, we're getting into the action that you need to take the action that you need to take to attract those quality men into your life. So if you're serious about having your dream love, then your step here is to focus wholeheartedly on your energy on the energy that you're putting out there. And the rest will follow. And I'm sure you're saying like what is that mean? I do. Let's get into the episode because that's exactly what I'm about to walk you through.
Welcome to the loved up effect Podcast. I'm Emily Bucknell, here to get you from demoralized, in single to empowered, confident, and in the loving arms of your dream guy, if you're a smart, successful woman with a lot of love to give, but no matter what you do, how hard you try or how much you want to, you just don't seem to be getting any closer to love than you are in the right place. I'm here to answer your biggest and most frustrating questions when it comes to dating love and relationships in a way that no one else will get ready for practical, no BS and powerful AF insights that will lead you to laugh. Are you ready? Let's get into today's episode.
Welcome to the final episode in this three part series, which has been all about solving that like all too common problem, where you like no matter how hard you're looking, where you're looking how hard you're trying to be attractive and who you think men one, you are still just attracting the same kind of men like swiping through all the like fishing photos, greased up abs, or like come on over invitation.
You know, attracting all those emotionally unavailable men, the non committal guys, they're just not looking for relationships, the ones with 45,000 Red Flags who are still hung up on the axe like month after month, year after year, nothing seems to change. So it feels like you'll never have your dream relationship because you're just like struggling to even get a decent date. You know, and that's the thing, attracting the quality man into your life is literally the first step in having your dream love. You know, it is so important that you solve this problem, that you start attracting different men into your life. Because you have to have that in order to have your dream relationship. If you don't take the time to solve this problem, then that dream relationship, just gonna be the dream relationship. So just to recap really quickly, in episode number nine, which was the first part in this series, we went through the three really common mistakes that get you stuck in this situation where you're just endlessly attracting the same disappointed guys, you know, I know these were surprising to a lot of you. Because these mistakes are literally what mainstream dating advice tells you that you're supposed to do. Like that advice that you get, like everywhere go to these places, do these things look this way. It's literally not helping you, it's having the opposite effect. It's keeping you stuck attracting the guys you don't want to be attracting. Then in episode number 10, which was part two of this series, you know, we got into what attraction actually is, you know, that big this is what attraction is. This is what attraction is all about. The fact that your energy, much more like so much more than like what you look like where you're going to find men, all of that kind of stuff. You know, it's your energy that determines what you want and who you attract into your life. You know, so if you haven't listened to those episodes, then make sure you do that right now and then come back here. Like I cannot stress
Since enough, it is insanely important that you understand everything that we've covered so far. Because you get this, you take action on what you're learning here, and you will solve that problem, which is freaking exciting. Like, I am so excited for you guys, because I know so many of you are just like devouring this information, you're like, Dude, I gotta make it happen. And that just, I'm so excited for you. Because this seriously can be that point where you look back and you say, like, that was the moment like listening to this series was a moment that like, everything started to change for me, you know, and when that happens, like six months time when you're in or year, or whatever it is, and you're in that relationship, and you're like, that was the thing that changed everything. For me, that started me on this whole new path to finding love, you gotta send me a message because those messages light me up like nothing else, where people say, you know, I remember being in bed at 3am, like, just so confused and trough frustrated, and all those things, and then you came up on my Instagram, or whatever it happened to be, like, they light me up so much, so please let me know.
Okay, so you have the choice right now, like, you know, this is all a choice, you can keep doing what you have been doing. And like, just totally ignore everything that I've said about your energy, like, ignore what's happening with your energy, you know, which determines, as you now know, which determines who and what you attract into your life. And if you decide to do that, then nothing is gonna change for you, I guarantee it, like I guarantee it, you keep doing what you have been doing, you're gonna keep attracting the same guys, nothing is going to change for you.
It's literally universal law. Like, I don't make it up. This is literally universal law. You know, ignore, like, think of the law of gravity, not one of the universal laws, but same kind of concept. You know, if you ignore what gravity does, and you're having a glass of water, and you just decide, you know, I'm gonna drop this glass, you know, it's gonna fall to the ground and smash. You know, you ignore what's going on with your energy now that you have this knowledge,
you're just gonna keep attracting the same disappointing men, you know, like glass folds, you ignore your energy you keep being in these lower vibrational place, you just gonna keep attracting the same disappointing men that just amplify and reflect how it is that you feel that reflect your energy. So
are you ready to put all the action that you have been taking the action that has not been working that has kept you stuck attracting the same guys over and over and over again? Are you ready to put that behind you and focus on your energy instead? If your answer is yes, then let's get into what you actually do. If your answer is no, go back and listen to the episodes previous.
So the first thing when you think about your energy, like when it's like Okay, I'm ready to go all in and really focusing on my my energy, changing my energy. So I changed the men that I'm attracting. What is it that you do the first thing is getting clear about where your energy is at? Like, what's that? Where, where are you on that vibration? Like, what are you feeling?
Because most people have no frickin clue what they're feeling where their energy is at. And then wonder why you're attracting like the guys that you're attracting, like, you know, when you get like, it's so common for you to be saying all that stuff like why am I so unlucky? Why is life so mean? To me? That was something I used to say all the time. Why is this? So? Why why why me? Why me Why me, which is such a victime kind of mentality to be in, you know, and then when you're in that place, like doing all the things that you now know, doesn't work that keeps you stuck where you are, you know, months and years past and nothing changes, because you don't have this awareness like you, you don't have this awareness of where your energy is at, and how it's determining everything that you're attracting, you know, and then when nothing changes, you feel worse. You attract worse till you get to that point where it's like, is there anybody actually out there for me? Is it easier just to give up on this whole love thing because I am just soul destroyed by it, like lowest possible vibration there is like sound familiar, I got to that place. You know, that's what I call this hole where you feel terrible. Your energy is not great, you attract worse and it keeps going down and down and down. I call that the spiral of unhappily ever after. Like being there. So you have to bring awareness of what's happening inside you where your energy is at, because it unlocks the next step which is doing something about that, you know, taking the action to clear and release to heal to regulate your energy, which is something like a lot of people most people in this world I
consciously or consistently doing, like, who says, Yeah, I'm just doing my energy, you
know, many people. And if you haven't ever done this, then I also want you to know that you're hanging on to all this heavy energy from the last like, years, decades, you know, the painful breakups of resentment that you might have, you know, and this isn't just love life related, like it might be resentment towards family members or friends, guilt, shame, jealousy, all of this energy, if you've never cleared it, you're still holding on to it. And until you start to clear this, you know, and bring in the healing that you need, it's just gonna keep dragging you further and further down that spiral of unhappily ever after. And when I explained, this sounds insane. But when I explained this, I always get this picture of like your energies, like think of your energy, like this house, you know, and every time you experience something, you know, and you're human, so it's always going to be happening, your energy is always shifting and changing, you're always taking things on, you know, but every time you have that painful breakup, and you just kind of shove it all down, and don't really like, face the pain that you're feeling and take steps to release it and heal. You know, that resentment that you have the jealousy every time you see, like a friend that's getting engaged or married, all of that sort of stuff, it kind of gets stuffed into this house, you know, and over the years, if you're not taking the steps to heal, to release to clear it, you know, this house just gets jam packs, da Hoft, full of all this heavy energy. And I'm sure a lot of you are walking around and you've like physically feel this way, like you might not have awareness of it now. But you get working with me. And you'll start to become aware of how you've got this like tension in your jaw, the sore neck the heaviness that you feel, you know, when you start to clear it, it's like just this absolute breath of fresh air. Anyway, so you've got this kind of like hoarder house and dream guys walking down the street. And he's like, yeah, that ain't for me.
I don't want to go in there. Like who wants to walk into a hoarders house, not many people. And before I continue on this, like, I know, I have a bit of the old perfectionist D kind of tendencies. And I know there'll be a lot of you out there that do as well. This isn't about like clearing it all out and healing completely, because that isn't possible. Like, anytime you heal, and you're clear, and you release energy, there's always other layers to discover, you know, you're a human having a human experience, you're gonna bump up against stuff that triggers you, that brings all this stuff up for healing and release, it's never going to be a totally clean slate. But it's about getting rid of a lot of that heavy stuff, and then taking action, you know, daily, like to connect in with your energy and then take the action that you need to to clear to heal to release, you know, so that house is like, you know, what's not has space, at least for somebody else to come into, you know, just doing it, you just need to do it. So you get to that vibration of who it is that you want to attract into your life. So if you've got that perfectionist thing happening right now and you're like, okay, and I hear this all the time from women who like I'm busy healing, I know, gotta get healed, before I can have the relationship. It's not an endpoint. This is just becomes a journey that you go on that you do consistently. It doesn't ever end in the best possible way. Of course, though, you know, so when you're in those lower vibrational places when you're like I'm feeling sad, angry, disappointed, frustrated, powerless, despair, whatever it happens to be, I'm filled with fear or worry anxiety, overthinking? You know, then it's about becoming aware of that, that that's where you are, and then taking action, whatever it happens to be. And this is what I help people figure out, like saying like, is it about clearing the energy healing, here are the tools or practices techniques that you can use to do that, you know, to ground your energy, if you're in that like really worried kind of state so that you're able to move back up to that vibration that you want to be in. And what I really want you to understand is that when this becomes what you do, like when energy work becomes what you do, it's a frickin win win situation. Because first and foremost, this is about feeling good. Your energy is a reflection of your emotions or it's reflected in your emotions. You know, it's about getting you up to those feelings of happiness, joy, excitement, it's all about getting you feeling great. And when you feel incredible, you know, as you the you have these internal shifts like this is the first thing that you start to feel. This is like, where you know, you're taking steps towards love when you start to feel better when you feel these internal shifts in terms of your energy and your emotions.
And so many people say to me, when you start on this process, when you start clearing all of this stuff that you've been holding on to, people say I haven't, I feel like me again. And this is what it's about doing is getting you back to that place where you're like, lit up and happy and joyful and light and just like,
like, just you, you know, and I just know that when I get those messages from women, and they're like, I feel like me again. I'm like, Dude, you're doing a good job, you know, and the thing is that you feel so you feel these internal shifts first, but it isn't generally very long. And I hear women, women tell me all this time, all the time, when they're like, I've done this work, I'm doing the work. And then people in their lives will say, there's something different about you, like your family, your friends will be like, What do you mean? Like, have you done something like a really good facial, you just seem different. Because your energy is different. So people in your life will start to notice. And that's when you know, it is just a matter of time until you start attracting those better quality men into your life. That is how this works. And that's what I mean by it's a win win situation. You frickin feel good, and you get what it is that you want. And this is what that choice is now for you to make where it's like, do I go down this path, where I get to feel amazing, and have the quality men come into my life? Or do I want to stay where I feel awful about myself, you know, where I'm sold, destroyed by this whole finding love process, and not have the relationship that I want not have those incredible men come into my life. So I want you to understand this is how you attract the quality men into your life. This is the action that you take healing, becoming aware of your energy, then clearing, healing, releasing, grounding, learning how to regulate your energy. And it's so different to what you have been doing, isn't it?
Which is why I'm able to help create such insane results for the women that I work with these massive transformations. You know, because it's this isn't the mainstream dating advice that most people follow, you know that you now have years of evidence, it doesn't work. This works, because it follows like the way that the Universe works, it follows universal law.
So for those of you who are serious ly ready, like you're just like, I need this problem solved. I need to start attracting the quality men into my life, I'm ready to take this action, you know, so that I start attracting these men, I'm ready to start to look at something different. I'm ready to put behind me all this action that I have been taking, and start focusing on something different focusing on my energy than I am busting to help you. So for the month of July, you can actually join attraction one on one, which is my on demand short, sharp, no BS crash course in how to attract the guys that you actually want to date. By going into this energy work, you can join for the month of July for only 22 US dollars. And inside so inside attraction, one on one, you'll actually understand and become aware of your energy. So that first step, it's like, I'll show you where you're at energetically and how you can do this like day to day. And then I take you through six really powerfully potent action steps that against help start you help start to help you create those energetic shifts within you that are essential like these are essential for you to start attracting quality men, you know, so that you leave with this really clear understanding of what you need to do and keep doing in order to create that like have that steady stream of incredible men coming into your life until you find your favorite one. Who doesn't want that there's also an extra special bonus for everybody that joins it's worth $88 So like it's yours when you also when you complete the content and complete the action steps, but it more than makes it worth getting into attraction 101 And as always, everything that I put out there comes with my guarantee like you go through all the content, take the action steps and you decide that it's not going to help you I'll refund you in full like 100% So if you're ready to really do this with me if you want to start experiencing these practices, really starting to get these shifts happening within you within your energy so that you attract better into your life. Then the links in the show notes to join attraction 101 now because there's a quality men are out there they're waiting for. It's just about you putting this into practice and that opportunity is here for you now, which is damn exciting. Isn't
It cannot wait to see you inside attraction one on one reach out if you have any questions at all send me an email DM me on social media I love chatting oh I'm so excited
