But where I see women most getting in their own way. So I think this is a thing, too. If you're listening to this podcast, and you've been in my world for a while, you're probably a lot like me, like pretty smart, successful, all of that kind of stuff, maybe a bit on the impatient and stubborn side as well, where it's like you can't this is how I want things to happen. And this is when I want things to happen. And if it doesn't, you get a bit like Why is life so freakin mean to me and love.
But where I see women most getting in their way. And this is the same for me too was in the how and the when and it's like it's not happening, how I want it or when I want it. And then getting pretty pissed off about it, which only keeps you stuck experiencing what it is that you are, you know, thinking that because it hasn't happened yet or it's not happening in the way that we imagined it, you know, by the deadline, you know, then oh my god, you're doomed and it's not going to happen. It's not meant to be yours. You may as well give up. You're an old maid. Forget it. Nobody's ever gonna want you. That's the story that we kind of have. If it's not happening, how I want it when I want it.
it, how I imagined the whole thing. And it's friggin not going to happen. And I think it's funny now even saying this, I'm like, oh my god, I really, that's exactly what he's to think, like really stubborn. But I think the thing is really recognizing that it's not this stuff is not actually up to us, it's up to the universe, life, God's source, whatever it is that you want to call it. And I think a lot of this is opening up, and a lot of what life is trying to teach you is to open up to that bigger kind of power. And we'll talk through how this all happens in a second. Like for sure, and I want to make this really clear for sure. It is our job to know what it is that we want. And then to take the steps that we're given. So the universe God source live, whatever your intuition, all the same, you take the steps that you're given. And I cannot wait to get into the episodes that we're going to do all about what action to take. But that's literally it, we need to know what it is that we want. And I'm going to talk about that too, because people make some, I don't want to say big mistakes. But there's a lot of misinformation there about getting clear about what it is that you want. It's literally what it is that you want, then take the steps that you're given as you're given them, the when and the how is not our business, that's up to the universe. And just because it hasn't come in the way or the when the time that you wanted it, it does not mean that it's not going to happen for you, it doesn't mean that it's too late, it doesn't mean that you're running out of time, it doesn't mean that it's not going to happen for you. The thing is that when we get involved in the when and the how we block what we want from coming in the universe is like can you get out of the frickin way. I always love using the analogy of like a kitchen, a restaurant kitchen, where it's like, okay, your job in a restaurant is to walk in, sit down at the table and say I would like the spaghetti bolognese, thank you. I have a problem. Honestly, every restaurant I go to if they have spaghetti bowl, and I have to order it anyway. But you sit there and you put that order in. And then it's the restaurants job to make it for you and then bring it when it's done. You know, it's not your job. If you were in a restaurant and you were like account, I'd like to spaghetti bolognese, and then you follow the waiter, like into the kitchen and start like helping the chef, they're gonna be like, can you get the eff out? Like you're not making this very easy. Like you're actually stepping up this whole process, and I can't get it out to you. And it's not going to be that good. Because you made it in the universe. And Chef man's like, Dude, I can make that better than you like, move. So I really want you I always found that analogy, super helpful. It's not your job to do that. You sit at the table and you say, This is what I like. And it appears when it is ready. You get to sit there drinking wine, having fun with your friends and being like, Yeah, whoo, I don't need to worry about that whole other episode coming on. Do you know and even the other night? I don't know why this is coming. I feel like kitchen analogies are very good for all of this. But you know, the kids are yelling at me. They're like, Okay, I'm hungry, I want dinner, I want dinner. And then like, we'll make us a snack. And I'm like, Dude, are you gonna get nothing? Because I'm all over the place trying to like, do all these things like, can you just back off, and I can give you everything obviously said with love.
But to make this really clear, I'm going to take you through, like more specifically, some of the five biggest mistakes, I don't really like calling them mistakes, but I couldn't think of another word. You're there are mistakes, I suppose. But you don't know you're making them. So don't feel bad. I think also as perfectionist, I know, there's a lot of perfectionist among you guys out there. It's not necessarily a mistake, because you don't know like this is all about bringing awareness to the things that you're doing that aren't actually helping you have what it is that you want. So these are the biggest mistakes, don't feel bad for making them though, that stop the universe delivering or make it really hard. Number one is kind of what I talked about already not paying attention to the lessons that life is giving you. Like, it's all about saying like that. And I really it really comes back to knowing that like if you have that desire for the relationship, then it's yours. And it's literally yours and everything that little that life is giving you now all the experiences that you have all the challenges that you have, all the lessons that are coming your way, are actually helping you get to where it is that you want to be you learn the lessons, you know, I love that. Once back in the day listening to Oprah, she said the same guy is going to keep showing up in different pants until you learn the lesson that he's showing you. And I don't think there's a woman out there that I've worked with who isn't like why do I keep attracting the same guys? Because they're trying to teach you something? There's a lesson in them like do you need to have stronger boundaries? Do you need to speak your needs? Do you need to stop saying like, on speaking your needs where it's like the guys are like no, I don't really want a committed relationship. You're like, Okay, I'll just see how this goes. But they're telling you move on stand up for what you want all of those kinds of things. They're teaching you something
thing. And until you learn that lesson, you're going to stay stuck attracting those same guys, you're going to stay stuck attracting those same experiences that you don't want to experience. You know, learning the lessons that life is giving you is the work that you need to do to find love. These are the steps that you need to take to find love. You have to grow into that person, you know, that has the epic relationship. And it's these lessons that are actually getting getting you there. So if you're not taking the lessons, if you're like I was and say, Why is life such a bitch.
You know, it's not actually progressing, you're moving you forward. So start saying when you're if you're in those kinds of situations where you're like, why does this keep happening? Start saying, and you'd literally put it out there and you'll get the answer. Like, what is this here to teach me? What is the lesson here? What do I need to learn here? And you'll start to move forward.
Always.
I did this reorder what I'm thinking about this, but did this reel A while ago, you'll see it on Instagram.
Like, I loved it. I don't know if everybody else loved it. But I thought it was hilarious at the time. But like God, looking at someone in their love life being like, Oh my God, why do you keep doing that? Stop doing that. Like when you're watching a scary movie yourself. And you're like yelling at the person you like, don't open the friggin door. I cannot watch scary movies anymore. I must say I'm not a scary movie I used to be but anyway, so I know. But that's kind of like what life is doing all the time. It's like, Come on, don't open the door or learn this lesson. And then you can have what it is that you want.
So yeah, I think too, if you are someone and you know you are a bit of a stubborn kind of person like him, I'm raising my hand to that right now.
And you've been brought up I think there's that other big kind of thing. That's a whole other episode we could do on this as well. But this whole other like just try harder, put more effort in wanted more, and you'll have what it is that you want. Again, that is just going to keep you stuck. It's it's not about asking that questions, especially when it comes to like finding love if what you're doing, you know, going to that Einstein quote, like, you know, Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. If you're coming at dating, and you're fine and finding love. And it's like, Okay, I've got a text in this way. And you're doing all of those things. And you're just like, well, it's not working. So just keep doing them. Like that's you just keeping yourself Self stuck. It's not about like working hard or doing more putting more effort in wanting it more. Any of that kind of stuff, specially when it comes to love. It's about saying, Okay, what is the actual lesson here? And how about I learned that instead, so it's kind of getting you out of probably like I was a big like, work hard, and you'll have what it is that you want? No, it's not learn the lesson. And you'll have what it is that you want.
And I think the thing is to want to say to like really want to say to massive gold stars, like I'm high fiving, all of you who are listening to this right now, because and I think this is a really, actually really important point here to like loving on all of you because you're here to learn. Like I think, and I think really appreciating this is going to be helpful for you to like really appreciating the fact that you've probably been experiencing a hell of a lot of shit in your love life or you're like, This is hard. I'm sick of this pain, I am sick of all of this. So you're here looking for answers. And I really like I'm getting chills just saying this. But I really want to acknowledge that because you're already taking steps to erase this mistake. Like when you start to pay attention and start to say, Okay, I'm feeling all this pain and I know I need to do something. So you're looking for the answers, like massive high fives to you. Because you're you're taking the steps that you need to take it's but then saying, Okay, what specifically is happening here that I really need to learn all that pain, that frustration, like it's been sent to draw your attention to something to redirect you to show you what lessons it is that you need to learn. So keep listening to this, Bob, God's obviously, you know, because it's gonna give you some of those insights that you maybe like all of this is about bringing awareness to what's happening and how you're feeling and all of that kind of stuff. So you can actually move forward.
You know, and I think, kind of going back to what I can't remember if I said this or not, but that big lesson that life was really teaching me was to adapt a whole new approach to living, get out of that kind of like, just try hard want it and think that it's going to happen. But kind of living with life as opposed to try to force it into my Hello. Like, oh, a person, a type personality. Like I'll make this what I want it to be like life doesn't actually work like that you have to work with life. We'll also be doing some episodes on that as well.
So I think if you want to have that epic loving relationship, then it's really about welcoming what life is giving you now and knowing it is the steps to get to where it is that you want to be. So hopefully
If you can take away from this episode and say, Okay, it's not that young getting older and like love isn't actually possible for me, it's about saying, okay, it is 100% possible. It's meant to be you have the desire, you will you're meant to have it, you are meant to have the relationship. It's just about working with life and saying, Okay, well, what are you giving me right now? What lessons do I need to learn, so that you can have it and you'll look back? Like I look back now. And there were quite a few years of like, a lot of pain and figuring this stuff out. But I look back now. And I'm like, Dude, I have the most empowering way of living my life now. And I'm so grateful for it. And I'm so excited for you guys. Because being here, you're on that kind of process that of getting to that place to where you can look back and say, holy moly, like, I'm actually I'm grateful for all of that that's happened, because now I've got this whole new perspective, this whole new way of living life, and I get to have what it is that I want. Okay, so mistake number two, that really kind of get in the way of the universe delivering what it is that you want, that relationship is having the timeline, you know, which is that fixation on when the win is not our business, the win is not our business that chefs in the kitchen, he'll bring you that amazing spaghetti bolognese, when it's ready. When it's ready. You don't want it when the pasta is all like grows or the meats not cooked, or it's like been sitting there for 45 years. Like it comes at the perfect moment. And the universe delivers in the perfect moment you think about it, like just look at nature, like spraying the seeds grow. When that like flowers bloom, when they're meant to bloom, it all happens exactly as it should.
And I get you know, I get we like we grow up. And we think like I said, we grow up and we think oh, it'll be just like Father of the Bride.
Or my life needs to look like everybody else's look, everybody else is all married. And I'm not, you know, and it can be really confusing when that doesn't happen for you. And it can throw you into that place where you and I was there where it feels really uncomfortable and where you're like kind of sitting in your life. You're like, this is not what I want. Like this doesn't feel good. I don't like this. I'm not very happy with this whole situation. If that's you, hopefully you've listened to episode number one whole episode there on that and how that stuff things up.
But when you look around, so again, let's poke holes in that in that whole story like my life, you know, it hasn't gone to plan. It's not the timeline. It's not right. Let's start to poke holes in the story. Like does love actually happen on a timeline? You know, you look around and you're like, Okay, no, there's peep people find love at any time in their life. I like I said they find might find love multiple times, they might find love not find love, spend ages single then find love again. It's all different for everyone. It's all different for everyone.
You know, some find love early some find later some and it's better than they ever expected. You know, I look back now. And yeah, when I was like 30, I was like, Oh 30 dumped a 31. And it was like sucker punch to the stomach. I look back now. And I'm like, so grateful that that happened. Because I had that time. Like, you know, I kind of look. And this is no judgment at all. This is just from my own perspective. But I look at the people that had kids in their 20s and stuff like that. I'm like, wow, having kids now. It's like a bit of a handbrake on like living your life. Like they become the total focus. And I had so many years to build the most incredible nursing career, like to travel the world to do all the things that I was really, really interested in, which becomes damn hard when you have kids and you have that whole life. So I look now and I'm like, all happened in the most perfect, most amazing way. And if it didn't happen like that, I know I wouldn't be here with this podcast and doing work that absolutely lights me up.
So if you're someone that struggles a lot with his timeline, like you're looking around at everybody else, and you feel like crap, because you don't have it or you're like oh my gosh, I'm past that age and like freakout mode, or you feel like just impatient where you're just like, where is he? Where is he? Where is he? Where is he? This is bullshit. He's not here yet.
Then first of all, again, pay attention to what life is trying to teach you.
Patience might be the lesson that was a mammoth lesson for me. Patience, faith, trust, you know, really and a lot of this like having that really big connection to a power bigger than us all is so helpful in this like putting your faith your trust in the universe, the chef in the kitchen, like it's gonna be cooked, when it's cooked. It's gonna be delivered to you when it's ready to be delivered to you. But when you start paying attention to what is actually happening within you, you know the energy that you're putting out there, the beliefs, the identity that you're holding on to
and really starting to let go. Let go of those
ones that no longer serve you, then that's really how you start to let love in, you know, let go of that ideal timeline. And I know it's so easy for me to just say that here and say, Okay, let go of the timeline, obviously, inside the loved up effect, I don't know if I've talked much about like, this is what the pod why the podcast is named the loved effect, it's my proven framework that will get you into love. There are three steps to it. And we go into like, you know, obviously here, it's easy to say let go with a timeline. But there are things that we can do like letting go of those beliefs, stepping into new identities. Really looking at the energy and how you feel inside, all of that kind of stuff will help you let go will help you surrender will help you come to that place of patience and trust and faith. And that's exactly when the universe delivers. It's exactly it's incredible. When you're just like fighting, fighting, fighting, and then you put it all down and you say okay universe, like deliver when you need to deliver it. That's when it comes like that's literally when it comes. But yeah, I totally understand if you're somebody like oh, how to let go of that how in God's name do I let go the comparisons, or that like impatience, like this is what we go into a lot inside the loved up affects so many tools and practices that will help you do that.
The next mistake is the shopping list. It says
three, mistake number three, sorry, I wrote down the wrong number, having the shopping list.
And this is what I was talking about. This is where there's so much misinformation about getting clear about what you want. So it is your job, it is your job to be like yes, I want the relationship. And this is what I want the relationship to be like, what people want, there's so much misinformation about that out there about what this actually means. And it so often goes to that, like get really specific about the partner that you have. So I think so often people have that shopping list and I had this to where it was like he has to be this tall. You know, with this kind of job with a family like this wearing these kinds of shoes. I don't think for shoes, it was weird. shoes with this sort of job did I say that income and interests in Baba Baba, but like about the person. And that is so misguided. And that will keep you stuck. Like, all the time. This will keep you stuck because the universe cannot like this is the thing to going back. I think it's really helpful actually the kitchen analogy going back, okay, so you ought to probably you're not ordering the spaghetti bolognese like I am, you're ordering something amazing. The spaghetti bolognese is amazing.
But you're ordering whatever it is that you want. But then you don't say to the chef account, I want you to use these ingredients, like make sure in the source, you have this much salt, and use these herbs and this and that. And you don't go and tell him what to do like what ingredients to put in. It's like, yeah, I want the chicken, the mushroom chicken or whatever it happens to be. And it's like, okay, I trust you to make it in the way that you know, is amazing. So when you get really, really clear about those kinds of specificities about, like what that person looks like, or whatever it happens to be, how tall they are, I think that's one of the biggest ones, like, let go of that place. How tall they are. The universe is trying to deliver you, the love of your life, the universe is trying to deliver the love of your life. But if you're really clear and specific about what package it comes in, you're likely going to miss it, you're 100% going to miss it. And I think there's so many women that have gone through the loved up effect, who are now in the most incredible relationships, and they're like, it wasn't the guy thought it was gonna be. But I don't like it's but it's better than that. And I think this is the thing that I really want you to understand the universe wants to deliver. Like, we have this kind of idea of what it is that we want, the universe can, if I can deliver so much better. The universe wants to give you even better than what it is that you want. We have such a narrow way of thinking about things, like a really narrow way of thinking about things where it's like, oh, he has that, like I used to say several years of these jobs, and that this and that. And a lot of it was influenced by like the people around me.
When in fact, it's not about what he's like, it's about the relationship. You know, it's about the relationship and how you feel in the relationship. So actually, in step two of the love dub effect, we go really deep into getting clear about what it is that you want. There's an epic practice and a whole process that I take you guys through to get really clear about what it is your soul wants at that deepest level. And this has nothing to do with how tall he is what job he has brown hair and blue eyes any of that bullshit because that's just bullshit. You know, if a guy shows up who's the same height as you, who is the most caring, loving man who makes you love who does everything that just makes you feel safe and secure. You ain't gonna care. You're not even gonna notice. Like, I guarantee three months later, you're gonna be like
I don't I couldn't even care if he's shorter than me. Like, I feel that love this is the relationship. And it just I get like excited even just talking about this, but this is really about allowing the universe to deliver the absolute best for you. So if you have the shopping list, rip it up right this second rip it up, because it's just and say, start just saying to the universe, okay, delivered the best I want the most loving, incredible relationship. Even better, if you get inside the loved are perfect. And I'll take you through the whole process.
summary version, though, get in touch with like, what it is that you really want from a relationship and then say to the universe, deliver that deliver the best deliver the best deliver even better than I even think for myself, and then be open to what comes. And that's the other bit it's about being open to what comes, what package it comes in and how it comes in.
And I could go on and on actually even just now I'm like, Oh my gosh, the amount of people? And this is a big question. Actually, this I'll do a whole episode on the spark and not having the spark straight up. This Sneak Peek The Spark has total BS too.
But look, okay, and this is Oh, yes, they I could do a whole episode on this. I'm getting all excited. I will.
Because that's another question I get asked all the time, but it's about really saying, Okay, if you want that long term, amazing relationship, look for those long term qualities, not the shit like the spark or how tall they are, or what they weigh, or what their body looks like, because it's all going to change anyway, it is all going to change anyway. So step one, for this point, for this mistake, rip up the shopping list, rip out the shopping list, and just get in touch with what it is that you want from a relationship. Okay, number four, mistake number four is limiting love and what is possible. So we're human, we are all human, and we're made to make sense of our world. So we have, so we have, you know, everything that kind of happens to us, we like give it all meaning. And we say this means that not means this and a lot of that stuff, or most of that stuff really comes from our subconscious, you know, our beliefs, the way we see the world, we the way that we see ourselves, the identity that we're in how we feel about ourselves. And a lot of that happens generally between when we're zero and seven, you know, our perspectives, like you know, the meaning that we give to everything that we experience in our life really is a product of our subconscious programming. So like I said, beliefs, identities, values,
all of that kind of stuff. So if you have the belief, if you're like, Okay, I've got to find love, like, and this just happened through, you know, like I said, what we've picked up from our caregivers between zero and seven, and then our experiences in life too. So you might be around a hell of a lot of people that are like, you don't find in that, like, we talked about that big kind of cultural story that like, if you don't find love by 35, then you're you know, was like, forget about it. So if you have this belief of my God, if I don't find love, by the time, I'm 35, then it's too late for me, you know, when you hit that age, it's, that's when, like we talked about, you're gonna have those feelings come up where it's like, or not, even when you hit that age, when you're anywhere near that age, you're gonna start having that feelings of panic and worry and freaking out, and all of that kind of stuff. Which then means that the way that you're dating, the energy that you bring to dating, like stops you getting the results that you want, and then you just reinforce that belief, like, Oh, my God, I'm hitting near 35. It's getting harder for me. But it's because you have that belief, you know, our beliefs. And all that stuff that's happening in our subconscious program is actually what creates our reality. You change that, like you change that belief. You say, Okay, you know what, instead of having the belief that I you have to find love at 35 and say, You know what, I'm going to find love at the perfect time for me, you get that belief imprinted in your subconscious. This is what we do in step two of the loved up effect is all about going into your subconscious programming and saying what's happening here, and then making the shifts that you need, so you have what it is that you want, but you get that belief, like love is gonna happen at the perfect time for me, like how do you what do you start to think you're like, okay, cool. I can't wait till it happens. How do you feel when you're thinking those things? Like, I feel pretty calm, I feel pretty collected. I feel great. You know, and how are you dating? Like, you're just even saying this. I'm like, you bring in this amazingly calm, loving, amazing energy. You're not like rushing to the altar and all that kind of stuff. You're going to be able to have connections with people in an entirely different way than if you're like, Okay, let's get down to it are you the guy ba ba, ba, ba, ba?
And then you get those kinds of results. That's how you really open up to love.
So it's really important that you understand those self imposed limitations, those beliefs that you have where it's like
If I don't, if it doesn't happen now, it's not gonna happen. That's what creates your reality. And that's therefore what you experience. So when you really can shift all those things, you actually change what it is that you experience. And it's insanely powerful. When that happens. It's mind blowing, actually, when that happens, and you're like, oh, my gosh, all this work that I did to change these beliefs is literally changed what it is that I'm experiencing. I know a lot of you who've been through some of my training events and stuff like that I tell this story all the time, because it was I had one of those moments. No, I like a lot of you. I had that belief. There's no one decent left for me to date. And that's exactly what it was. I experienced like, no one decent left today. Like I felt really like, oh, what's the point of this like, so I'm putting out this kind of not so great energy, you know, not really seeing anybody. And it was like, What the hell's the point?
Do a lot of work on that belief, like and changing that, and I will never forget, I got really into golf at one stage as well. driving home from golf through Sydney, like the city of Sydney. And my phone was like, I just kind of don't look at your phone while you're driving. But I did look at my phone when I was driving. That was ages ago. I don't think that was Lordan.
Anywhere here, but looked at my phone, I was like, I have five messages from five different guys. And they're all friggin epic. Like, I had to be like, Okay, I've got to turn start turning people down, which I had never had to do. And I had this moment of realization where I was like, Holy crap, because I remember thinking, there's so many guys today, what do I even do in this situation? And I was like, This is it. Like that belief is clearly kicked in and look at this. And it's so funny, because now I look back. And when I had that belief, there's nobody decent left today. This is a whole nother thing too. But your brain actually filters, information based filters, all the information that's coming on you coming at you based on your beliefs. So I look back now. And when I was in that mode of like, there's nobody decent left to decent around for me to date. I actually remember turning down some really incredible guys. And I did it. And I know there's a lot of you doing it too right now, to boring no spark. But Baba Baba, these are guys that would have given me exactly what I wanted. And I was like, no, no, no, because I had this belief, there's no one decent left the day. So I didn't see that. All I saw was the boring this, this this and I look back now I'm like, Oh my God. That's how your brain this subconscious programming works. Again, this is what we go really deep into inside step two of the loved up effect. And so Mistake number five, is really making the past determine what is possible for you. So this is kind of closely related to the previous two that I talked about. But it's really a big one. And so important to recognize. Because when you start to recognize this, and this is really important to say, too, whenever you start to bring awareness to what's happening within you the thoughts that you have all of the how you're feeling, you start to kind of pull it all apart, it starts to become really clear. You're like, Oh my God, I didn't even realize I was doing that. I didn't even realize that that was keeping me stuck where I was. So keep listening to this podcast, because it's all about helping you bring awareness to the stuff that's happening within and how it's keeping you stuck.
But yeah, this is a really big one and really important that you recognize are you making your past, determine what's possible for your future? You know, so often we think and like I said, our brains and we're human, we're just wired to be like, create explanations and give meaning to what it is that we experience. But we still often think that because we've experienced something in the past, then that becomes all we can experience. And you may not even realize that you're doing this like but this is all those kinds of statements like I only attract jerks, or no relationships of mine last like this is taking your past experience and making it your future. This is like literally you're saying, Oh, I always get dumped. Like that's you saying that that is going to be your future? Yeah, it happened in your past but who says it's your future. Like you get to decide what your future is. And every time you say those kinds of statements, that's what you're actually creating.
So you create your reality and hopefully this is becoming really clear to you through the stories that you tell yourself your life what's possible for you. And this is something that someone said to me once and I was like, wow, okay, I get that when you drive looking at the rearview like you don't actually sorry, oh my god, I stuffed it up.
Let me start again, because it's a damn good little saying you don't drive looking in your rear view mirror. Like if you drive looking in your rear view mirror you're gonna frickin crash.
And I really want you to kind of let that sink in. If you if you constantly say okay, I had these you know shitty relationships like abusive relationships, no relationships that always ended me getting dumped. I never attract the right guys. I'm all
always like heartbroken, that is what you're creating. So I really, like really want you to bring some awareness to what it is that you're saying to yourself, because this is what you're creating. Make this moment right now, the moment that you start telling yourself a new story, start creating something new for yourself, when you catch yourself saying those things say, that was my past, but I'm starting to create something new.
So hopefully this has been helpful for you. And you're probably thinking, Oh my God,
holy moly, that's a lot to do. That's a lot to take in. That's like, you know, reversing a lot of those like mistakes, I'm using air quotes, I still don't like calling them mistakes, you know, because you don't know that you're doing this, this is all about bringing awareness. You know, reversing those things might seem a whole lot easier said than done, like, how do you just let go of your limitations? How do you stop the thoughts coming up? How do you stop those kinds of like, you know, making your past means something about your future? How do you let go of the timeline, all of that kind of stuff. You know, and this is honestly what I'm all about helping you do. This is what the loved up effect is all about making this as simple as possible. And, you know, over the last nine years, like I started creating the loved up effect, I didn't know I was doing it. Back when I was going through all of this myself, and now having had, you know, 10s of 1000s of women through my free training events, you know, and not free training events, just training events, through my program, one on one coaching, you know, I've got it down to like three really simple steps that you take that you go through, and I give you all the practices, exercises, all of that kind of stuff, to put all of this into practice, where it's going within and saying, Okay, well, what's actually happening here? What's happening in my energy? What kind of what energy do I need to release? What healing do I need to bring in? Sidenote, I'm going massively into that at the moment. So if you're inside, or if you have access to all three elements, or at least release yourself of the lub dub effect, there will be some big, big, big updates coming soon. A lot about healing really, really excited about that.
But yeah, going into those things, and then step to love yourself is really all about your subconscious programming going into that thing. What is it your soul actually desires. So let's not talk about how tall he has to be, what is your soul actually desire, let's open up to allowing the universe to bring that into you the very best buy, you know, shifting what's happening in your subconscious. So you're no longer blocking yourself with those limiting stories, those limiting identities, like values that aren't aligned with what it is that you want in your life. And then Step number three is really focusing on that action portion. Like, you know, all that kind of crap that you read online, where it's like, you have to wait certain amount of time before you might reply to messages you have to be on this app. And but the like were this on a first date, like none of that is like it's just generic. Your dream relationship is your dream relationship, it is totally unique to you. And the steps that you need to take to get there are unique to you as well. You can't find them on a like this is how you date kind of thing it's about when you really go and do the work. That's like take those two other steps in the loved up effect, like, then you really start taking action that's entirely different. It comes from a different place. And so often, it's not even related to dating at all. But it gets you so much closer to love so much faster. Because it's not just about taking that kind of like, this is what I should do.
So I haven't actually opened the doors. So the only way that you can access all three elements of the loved up effect is actually through my program completely locked up. haven't opened the doors to completely loved up since last year, but I will be soon. And like I said, there'll be some updates coming. So it may even be at a discount. And I haven't worked that stuff out yet.
I will though. But I am actually going to be doing a workshop. There'll be information out I think probably by the next podcast episode that's going to take you deeper into these elements of the loved up effect. It's called I already know it's called your love life. overhauled. Yes, it is. I just had to double check with myself, your love live overhauled, really, it's really like the basics of what you need to do to actually find love. So getting out of all the kind of mainstream this is what you do. This is what you're supposed to do stuff and what what down to what actually matters. Went through some of it today. But stay tuned. I will have information out probably next week. If you're listening to this podcast later, I'll put a link here.
I'm getting used to having a podcast so exciting. But if you have any questions at all for me, totally let me know if you have a question that you'd like me to answer on the podcast. Hit the link in the show notes. Feel free to send me a DM email if you have any questions at all about what we talked about today. Any questions about the loved up effect where you're at in your love life?
I am here like my mission honestly is to get you out of this place where it's like why is this so hard? And into those relationships that you that you want and feeling like you're at least feeling like you're like empowered and taking the steps that you need to get there. So love it. Also if you liked this episode, please leave me a review it means so much to me and mainly like, I love hearing if you enjoyed this stuff, obviously, but it means so much to me because it it's how other people can find this podcast and get this information. I know back in the day I would have killed to have this information.
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