Why It's Always The Same Emotionally Unavailable, Avoidant Men (And How To Break This Pattern)

Argh, the emotionally unavailable, avoidant men… they make dating a REAL pleasure don’t they?! 🙄

The men who start something with you, get you all interested and then slowly pull away or simply ghost you.

The dreaded situationship where he gives you enough moments of acting like a boyfriend to make you think he’s interested, but then tells you he doesn’t want a relationship or anything serious.

Or the guy who texts you for weeks but never actually asks you on a date.

Maybe he suggests a date, makes plans, but then flakes or never follows through.

Let’s meet up Saturday!

Then Saturday comes and goes and you haven’t heard from him.

Or he disappears on you for days or weeks at a time and then pops back up like nothing happened.

You get the drift.

The inconsistent men who f with your mind because you never really know where you stand.

And when this keeps happening, it’s pretty bloody hard not to start wondering...

Why are all men like this?

Are there any decent men left?

Why does this keep happening to me?

I know because for YEARS, this was me too.

I’d watch my friends meet men who were consistent, genuine, made it clear how they felt and wanted the same kind of relationship my friends did.

Me on the other hand?!?!

I’d meet these guys who would give me just enough that I thought it could be something.

Most of the time it never really went anywhere, but I was so sucked into what I thought was their potential that I’d keep hanging on, just in case they started showing up for me the way I wanted them to.

I’d be three months into seeing someone with my phone glued to me on a Friday, waiting to see if they’d plan anything that weekend.

Using every little thing he did or said to decipher where I stood.

It was bloody awful.

And when you’ve been experiencing this for long enough, it starts to feel like this is just what men are like now.

But then how do you explain all those other women meeting men who ARE consistent? Who make plans, show up, make it clear they’re interested and actually want a relationship?

Because those men DO exist.

And if it feels like emotionally unavailable, avoidant men are the only men you ever seem to attract, there’s a reason you keep ending up here.

It took me YEARS to figure it out.

But once I did, everything changed.

When I met my husband, we had a date on a Friday and that night he said he’d call me the next day.

He called Saturday and organised to pick me up for lunch Sunday.

Two weeks later he asked me to be his girlfriend.

Six months later we moved in together and the rest is history.

So no, you don’t have to keep dating the same emotionally unavailable man in different pants.

There’s a reason this pattern keeps happening, and there are things you can do to actually break it so you start attracting the kind, genuine, consistent men you’ve been wondering even exist.

I walk you through the 3 reasons you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, and the 3 steps to break the pattern, inside this podcast episode: