39, Single, Lonely and Feeling Forgotten

There’s a really specific kind of loneliness that can come with being single in your 30s or 40s or beyond.

It’s not just that you don’t have the relationship you want.

It’s watching everyone else’s life move forward in a way yours hasn’t.

Your friends have partners, children, weekends filled with family stuff. The friendships that used to be everything slowly get pushed down their list of priorities.

And even though you KNOW you still matter to them…

It doesn’t feel like you matter nearly as much.

You don’t quite belong in the same way you did.

It can feel like you have less to add to conversations because you don’t have the husband who leaves his socks on the floor, the baby keeping you up all night or the toddler pushing every bloody boundary.

And because you don’t have all of that, somehow what matters to you, YOUR life, gets forgotten.

That hurts.

And after a while, that pain can become the way you see yourself.

The one without the “real life”.

The one who’s perpetually single.

Never chosen.

Never a priority.

Always somewhere in the background of everyone else’s life.

So of course it feels like finding your man would finally fix this.

But the cold hard truth is that even if everyone around you showed up perfectly...

The pain would still be there.

Because being single didn’t create that feeling that you’re forgotten, unimportant or never chosen.

It revealed it.

And THAT changes what you do about it completely.

Because it means you don’t have to wait until your friends prioritise you more, your life finally catches up or a man comes along and chooses you to stop feeling this way.

You can actually get rid of this loneliness, this feeling that you’re forgotten, unimportant and somehow always the one left behind.

And when you do, it doesn’t just change how you feel on those long, lonely weekends.

It changes your friendships.

It changes dating.

It changes the men you attract and what you’ll accept from them.

Because you’re no longer walking into every relationship as the woman who expects to be forgotten.

If you’re bloody over feeling like everyone else got to move forward while you got left behind, listen to this: